I have some really nice Zildjian A custom cymbals and recently after just about a year or two (and I don't even play that often) both of them have cracked. For drummers that know a thing or two, these aren't cheap or poorly made cymbals. These are some of the best you can buy. So my question is this. Why are they breaking so easily with me only playing a few times a month. I play a lot of rock music and I do use them decently hard, but I do not believe they should be breaking like this. Any advice? Does temperature (I live in Massachusetts) like when it gets really cold affect them? Should I not use them in certain temps? My drum set is in a finished enclosed porch with windows but no heat. What do you think?Cracked cymbals...need help/advice?
I'm a guitar player... not a drummer, but I know from playing in bands, that should be at room temperature before playing. They can actually give off a different sound when they are cold, but more importantly, when they are cold they can become brittle and break pretty easily. You gotta find a way to warm them up. Also, playing to hard will break them as well... especially when they are a little cold.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Low progesterone &ttc help&advice please?
hi,
i posted this yesterday but only gor 1 answer, so i'm postin it again to see if anyone esle can answer.
me and my husband have been ttc for 1 year, he had sperm tests %26amp; was told his motility %26amp; count was fairly low, but changes to diet would make it better, and he can still impregnate me as only one sperm's needed.
anyway, i was sent for blood tests to check if i was ovulating, which i do as i use the clearblue fertility monitor.
my test result came back %26amp; they said i have low progesterone. i have been reading about it online, but just wondered if there was anyone else that has this problem, where you put on medication, what sort and did it work for you %26amp; how long did it take while on the meds for you to become pregnant and could you sustain it?
my doc said if i don't become preg this month he'll send me for an ultrasound to check my ovaries and the dye test to check blockage of tubes.
i really need to get a bit more info on this as i don't fully understand what it means to have low progesterone. do you have miscarriages? can you actually get preg? is it a form of pcos and does it sound like i have this?
my ovulation isn't always at the same time each month, sometimes it's a week later than i expected, and i have irregular periods.
we are both in our mid 20's.
thanks so much for your answersLow progesterone %26amp;ttc help%26amp;advice please?
i also had low progesterone, and my dr put me on 50mg of clomid..he ran the test again and it was still low so he upped it 100mg and now its in the high range of normal. he told me most likely if my progesterone was low then i wasn't ovulating, and as you know , if you don't ovulate then you can;t conceive..i also had the dye test(hsg) to check my tubes..its a good thing to have checked for the price.(and i don't have insurance) there are alot of resources about low progesterone online that helped me alot..lots of luck and baby dust to you
i posted this yesterday but only gor 1 answer, so i'm postin it again to see if anyone esle can answer.
me and my husband have been ttc for 1 year, he had sperm tests %26amp; was told his motility %26amp; count was fairly low, but changes to diet would make it better, and he can still impregnate me as only one sperm's needed.
anyway, i was sent for blood tests to check if i was ovulating, which i do as i use the clearblue fertility monitor.
my test result came back %26amp; they said i have low progesterone. i have been reading about it online, but just wondered if there was anyone else that has this problem, where you put on medication, what sort and did it work for you %26amp; how long did it take while on the meds for you to become pregnant and could you sustain it?
my doc said if i don't become preg this month he'll send me for an ultrasound to check my ovaries and the dye test to check blockage of tubes.
i really need to get a bit more info on this as i don't fully understand what it means to have low progesterone. do you have miscarriages? can you actually get preg? is it a form of pcos and does it sound like i have this?
my ovulation isn't always at the same time each month, sometimes it's a week later than i expected, and i have irregular periods.
we are both in our mid 20's.
thanks so much for your answersLow progesterone %26amp;ttc help%26amp;advice please?
i also had low progesterone, and my dr put me on 50mg of clomid..he ran the test again and it was still low so he upped it 100mg and now its in the high range of normal. he told me most likely if my progesterone was low then i wasn't ovulating, and as you know , if you don't ovulate then you can;t conceive..i also had the dye test(hsg) to check my tubes..its a good thing to have checked for the price.(and i don't have insurance) there are alot of resources about low progesterone online that helped me alot..lots of luck and baby dust to you
Pregnancy question??? Please Help very important!!!! Any help/advice is appreciated!!!!!?
i have three question but i dont want to waste points so i am wrapping them all into one!!!!
1. Is it possible to have arthritis during pregnancy?
I have been having pains in my hands and wrists.....they are sharp and dull......when i try to pop my fingers or my wrist they hurt even worse and it kinda hurts to type but i want to know!!!!!!
2. I have sunburn on my scalp what can I use to sooth it? I have been told to put aloe on my scalp but I have ';black girls hair';.....they are very tight curls and i dont feel like washing aloe out of my hair for the next week......if you are wondering how i got sunburn on my scalp the answer is....I let my friend put my hair in corn rows and I went to the beach to fish and swim and i think you know the rest......
3. I cant get to sleep and it is bugging me.....what can i do????? When I go to lay down I just lay there because I cant fall asleep.....Does any one know any home remedies to get me to go to sleep.......Keep in mind that I am 23weeks pregnant so dont say sleeping pills......
All answers/help/advice is appreciated......thanks in advance and i hope every one wellPregnancy question??? Please Help very important!!!! Any help/advice is appreciated!!!!!?
1. it is always possible to be sick and have arthritis and be pregnant but is not because that you are pregnant that you get sick...for this is best to talk to your doctor in your next visit :D
2. you can use lotion or baby oil, but if you use baby oil don't go in the sun..you can still use aloe even with ';black girls hair'; just don't leave it there, wash it off after a couple of hours...aloe is good.if you don't want to use it everyday you don't have to...there is shampoo and lotions with aloe :D
3. you can drink tea that can make you relax, like chamomile, or something similar, or a warm glass of milk, you can go to a mexican store and get a ';te de tila'; which is to calm you down, it does not affect your baby...Pregnancy question??? Please Help very important!!!! Any help/advice is appreciated!!!!!?
the first question...idk if its arthritis or not but i've had pains in my legs but tahts cuz im 9 months and im carrying alot...the 2nd question..i dont know...and the 3rd....try adding more pillows throughout your body length..and if you have any heartburn, take 2-3 tums and lay your head/neck on two pillows. that helps me.
To question #3, try not to have any caffeine at all during the day. At least for me I can have a small soda all day long and can't sleep until very late that night. And try not to do alot of activities after 6pm.
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THese are symptoms of pregnancy but just ask your doctor!
1. joints ache during pregnancy it's not arthritis
if it gets really bad talk to your dr about it
2. ouch! - yeah aloe is the only thing that's really going to help
maybe re-braid it and have them use aloe while they do it and then you'll be able to put it in between (it shouldn't show much if you don't glob it on)
... i don't know - that's a hard one if you can't wash it often
3. warm milk always helps
good luck!
um the third question...My doctor said it was 100% safe to take melatonin while I was preg. It is an over the counter medc. It is in the vitamin section, it is a natural chemical our brains make when we are babies...and it works wonders. If you are still iffy, then a glass of warm milk helps alot too, but i hate warm milk. And yes u can get arthritis Remember the baby takes alot of your calcium and other vitamins. Sunburn on the scalp, maybe vinegar and water
1. Uh, yeah obviously. You can get arthritis at any time. You are making it worse by attempting to pop them.
2. There really isn't anything you can do if you don't want to put aloe on your hair. There is some spray aloe that isn't as thick. But you will still have to wash it out.
3. There are some natural sleeping pills and I believe they are safe for pregnancies. Also, try reading. It should tire your eyes out. You can try slowly adjusting yourself to get ready to go to bed. Don't eat 1 to 1-1/2 hour before going to sleep, try taking a hot bath before sleeping and get super comfy and lay in bed and read. Don't turn on the tv.
1. Pregnancy means taking enough calcium for you and your baby so maybe thats why your fingers hurt. Try getting enough of it maybe it can help.
2. Like any other sunburn youneed to wait for it to go away try washing your hair with cold water it will only relief if for a moment but it may help.
3. To sleep or to calm my nerves you could drink chamomile tea with anis stars so it tastes good. You could find it supermarket in the spices aisle A few chamomile flower 4 stars of anis you boiled it and add sugar when served. When you take it try to be at bed and relax it helps with the effect. Good luck, and don't worry its just pregnancy too.
Its not arthritis, some woman develope carpal tunnel syndrom, which is much like what you describe, it usually subsides after pregnancy but can remain, spek to your doctor about it asap.
For the sunburn, just try keeping out of the sun, stay away from corn rows, uv rays ca be very damaging to baby, and try keeping your hair moist like putting water in a spray bottle and spraying it every now anf then.
Lots of woman have sleeping issues from pains or being uncomfortable, and some develope insomnia. If you uncomfottable invest in a good body pillow to curl up to, if its insomnia there is nothing you can do without medication for it, except try and gets lots of exerciase without overdoing it each day.
Foreverliving MSG combine with forever heat lotion can relief the arthitis pain and help the pain to go away. You can also drink a pill of omega 3 from forever living it's safe during pregnancy it will even increase your baby's IQ that 's what a read in a magazined with an study on babies whose mothers took the omega 3. You can also try to drink 2 oz of aloe vera gel from forever living to help qwith the arthritis , and constipation I think the pop problem is not cause by the arthiris , pregnant women get constipated because the intestines get pus back so far and squezed to give room to the baby . The aloe is the best option for you scalp, you don't have to put a whole lot and if you use the one from forever living which is called aloe vera gelly you don't have to rinse right away because it doesn't leave residue it is quite clean I apply it on my hair to stop freezing her or to hydrate my scalp and I have never had flakes it's great it's 100% stabilized aloe vera, as if you were to cut an aloe leaf open only without the mess. Very affordable and you can find it at forever-living .net To hepl you sleep what you h ave to do is to go for a walk before you're going to sleep then take a shower and you'll fall asleep you can also take a cup of tea free of caffeine camomile with cinamon you can also get it at forever-living.net I used to take it when I was pregnant and my baby was moving to much and it would calmed him down and I will feell great the warmness it's very soothing for you and your baby. Give it a try I did all these when I was pregnan and I never had problem with my pregnancy it help me to get through it with much trouble. Gos bless bye!
yes arthritis is something you can have in pregnancy
and you might have to just let the sunburn go away by itself..or just put a little on your finger and get it as close to the scalp as possible so that there wont be very much in your hair..
as for the sleep i go through this all the time..i had a horrible time last night with braxton hicks contractions..and you just have to lay there intell you finally fall asleep i know it sucks..
you could try to take a warm bath...
also the smell of lavender works so get some of that in a shampoo or soap next time your at a store..
and you could try to drink something warm sometimes that helps
but thats all i got..i come back if i have an more ideas
1. It sounds like you have carpal tunnel, which is common during pregnancy and will flare up-ask your dr. what to do. More than likely they will tell you to wear a brace.
2. Just dab a little bit of lotion on your sunburn, it will soothe the itching/pain.
3. Yes, you CAN take some sleeping pills. I am looking at the list from my dr. right now and for sleeping it says it is safe to take Tylenol P.M. or Unisom.
I have arthritis and I am 36 weeks pregnant. Needless to say I can barely move at times because of the pain in my hips, hands, feet, wrists, and knees. I am only 24 and I walk like my grandma, lol. However, I think that much of the pain is due to water retention and the extra weight.
As for sleeping I would ask your doctor for an approved medicine. Mine allows me to take benedryl or tylenol pm. I haven't had to though because this pregnancy is exhausting.
1. Is it possible to have arthritis during pregnancy?
I have been having pains in my hands and wrists.....they are sharp and dull......when i try to pop my fingers or my wrist they hurt even worse and it kinda hurts to type but i want to know!!!!!!
2. I have sunburn on my scalp what can I use to sooth it? I have been told to put aloe on my scalp but I have ';black girls hair';.....they are very tight curls and i dont feel like washing aloe out of my hair for the next week......if you are wondering how i got sunburn on my scalp the answer is....I let my friend put my hair in corn rows and I went to the beach to fish and swim and i think you know the rest......
3. I cant get to sleep and it is bugging me.....what can i do????? When I go to lay down I just lay there because I cant fall asleep.....Does any one know any home remedies to get me to go to sleep.......Keep in mind that I am 23weeks pregnant so dont say sleeping pills......
All answers/help/advice is appreciated......thanks in advance and i hope every one wellPregnancy question??? Please Help very important!!!! Any help/advice is appreciated!!!!!?
1. it is always possible to be sick and have arthritis and be pregnant but is not because that you are pregnant that you get sick...for this is best to talk to your doctor in your next visit :D
2. you can use lotion or baby oil, but if you use baby oil don't go in the sun..you can still use aloe even with ';black girls hair'; just don't leave it there, wash it off after a couple of hours...aloe is good.if you don't want to use it everyday you don't have to...there is shampoo and lotions with aloe :D
3. you can drink tea that can make you relax, like chamomile, or something similar, or a warm glass of milk, you can go to a mexican store and get a ';te de tila'; which is to calm you down, it does not affect your baby...Pregnancy question??? Please Help very important!!!! Any help/advice is appreciated!!!!!?
the first question...idk if its arthritis or not but i've had pains in my legs but tahts cuz im 9 months and im carrying alot...the 2nd question..i dont know...and the 3rd....try adding more pillows throughout your body length..and if you have any heartburn, take 2-3 tums and lay your head/neck on two pillows. that helps me.
To question #3, try not to have any caffeine at all during the day. At least for me I can have a small soda all day long and can't sleep until very late that night. And try not to do alot of activities after 6pm.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
THese are symptoms of pregnancy but just ask your doctor!
1. joints ache during pregnancy it's not arthritis
if it gets really bad talk to your dr about it
2. ouch! - yeah aloe is the only thing that's really going to help
maybe re-braid it and have them use aloe while they do it and then you'll be able to put it in between (it shouldn't show much if you don't glob it on)
... i don't know - that's a hard one if you can't wash it often
3. warm milk always helps
good luck!
um the third question...My doctor said it was 100% safe to take melatonin while I was preg. It is an over the counter medc. It is in the vitamin section, it is a natural chemical our brains make when we are babies...and it works wonders. If you are still iffy, then a glass of warm milk helps alot too, but i hate warm milk. And yes u can get arthritis Remember the baby takes alot of your calcium and other vitamins. Sunburn on the scalp, maybe vinegar and water
1. Uh, yeah obviously. You can get arthritis at any time. You are making it worse by attempting to pop them.
2. There really isn't anything you can do if you don't want to put aloe on your hair. There is some spray aloe that isn't as thick. But you will still have to wash it out.
3. There are some natural sleeping pills and I believe they are safe for pregnancies. Also, try reading. It should tire your eyes out. You can try slowly adjusting yourself to get ready to go to bed. Don't eat 1 to 1-1/2 hour before going to sleep, try taking a hot bath before sleeping and get super comfy and lay in bed and read. Don't turn on the tv.
1. Pregnancy means taking enough calcium for you and your baby so maybe thats why your fingers hurt. Try getting enough of it maybe it can help.
2. Like any other sunburn youneed to wait for it to go away try washing your hair with cold water it will only relief if for a moment but it may help.
3. To sleep or to calm my nerves you could drink chamomile tea with anis stars so it tastes good. You could find it supermarket in the spices aisle A few chamomile flower 4 stars of anis you boiled it and add sugar when served. When you take it try to be at bed and relax it helps with the effect. Good luck, and don't worry its just pregnancy too.
Its not arthritis, some woman develope carpal tunnel syndrom, which is much like what you describe, it usually subsides after pregnancy but can remain, spek to your doctor about it asap.
For the sunburn, just try keeping out of the sun, stay away from corn rows, uv rays ca be very damaging to baby, and try keeping your hair moist like putting water in a spray bottle and spraying it every now anf then.
Lots of woman have sleeping issues from pains or being uncomfortable, and some develope insomnia. If you uncomfottable invest in a good body pillow to curl up to, if its insomnia there is nothing you can do without medication for it, except try and gets lots of exerciase without overdoing it each day.
Foreverliving MSG combine with forever heat lotion can relief the arthitis pain and help the pain to go away. You can also drink a pill of omega 3 from forever living it's safe during pregnancy it will even increase your baby's IQ that 's what a read in a magazined with an study on babies whose mothers took the omega 3. You can also try to drink 2 oz of aloe vera gel from forever living to help qwith the arthritis , and constipation I think the pop problem is not cause by the arthiris , pregnant women get constipated because the intestines get pus back so far and squezed to give room to the baby . The aloe is the best option for you scalp, you don't have to put a whole lot and if you use the one from forever living which is called aloe vera gelly you don't have to rinse right away because it doesn't leave residue it is quite clean I apply it on my hair to stop freezing her or to hydrate my scalp and I have never had flakes it's great it's 100% stabilized aloe vera, as if you were to cut an aloe leaf open only without the mess. Very affordable and you can find it at forever-living .net To hepl you sleep what you h ave to do is to go for a walk before you're going to sleep then take a shower and you'll fall asleep you can also take a cup of tea free of caffeine camomile with cinamon you can also get it at forever-living.net I used to take it when I was pregnant and my baby was moving to much and it would calmed him down and I will feell great the warmness it's very soothing for you and your baby. Give it a try I did all these when I was pregnan and I never had problem with my pregnancy it help me to get through it with much trouble. Gos bless bye!
yes arthritis is something you can have in pregnancy
and you might have to just let the sunburn go away by itself..or just put a little on your finger and get it as close to the scalp as possible so that there wont be very much in your hair..
as for the sleep i go through this all the time..i had a horrible time last night with braxton hicks contractions..and you just have to lay there intell you finally fall asleep i know it sucks..
you could try to take a warm bath...
also the smell of lavender works so get some of that in a shampoo or soap next time your at a store..
and you could try to drink something warm sometimes that helps
but thats all i got..i come back if i have an more ideas
1. It sounds like you have carpal tunnel, which is common during pregnancy and will flare up-ask your dr. what to do. More than likely they will tell you to wear a brace.
2. Just dab a little bit of lotion on your sunburn, it will soothe the itching/pain.
3. Yes, you CAN take some sleeping pills. I am looking at the list from my dr. right now and for sleeping it says it is safe to take Tylenol P.M. or Unisom.
I have arthritis and I am 36 weeks pregnant. Needless to say I can barely move at times because of the pain in my hips, hands, feet, wrists, and knees. I am only 24 and I walk like my grandma, lol. However, I think that much of the pain is due to water retention and the extra weight.
As for sleeping I would ask your doctor for an approved medicine. Mine allows me to take benedryl or tylenol pm. I haven't had to though because this pregnancy is exhausting.
Need Some Girl Help/Advice..?
Alright well there is this girl in my govt. class at school. Ive been going to school with her for awhile, but this is the first class ive had with her. So we started just casual talking during class and joking around, Ive talked to her on facebook a few times just asking how her day was and things like that. I havent talked to her everyday so i wont bother her, but i would like to get to know her a little more..
what are the next steps i should take???Need Some Girl Help/Advice..?
1: (if you haven't already done this) tell your self out loud that you like her
2: Start talking to her more
3: Find out if she has a boyfriend (if she does, he might kick you're ***)
4: If she doesn't have a BF, ask her to HANG OUT (not a date thing so she won't feel pressured)
5: Ask her on a formal date (asuming she likes you)
6: If she says no to the date, leave her alone
6B: if you go on the date, be nice to her and have fun then confess
7: If she has the same feelings, you're in, if not leave her alone. You don't wanna be the boy known as just one of her stalkers.Need Some Girl Help/Advice..?
ask her to casually hang out with you sometime
start talking to her in person more ofthen but not to the point ur annoying and flirt a l lil bit more so she doaent think of you just as a friend
CONFESS
what are the next steps i should take???Need Some Girl Help/Advice..?
1: (if you haven't already done this) tell your self out loud that you like her
2: Start talking to her more
3: Find out if she has a boyfriend (if she does, he might kick you're ***)
4: If she doesn't have a BF, ask her to HANG OUT (not a date thing so she won't feel pressured)
5: Ask her on a formal date (asuming she likes you)
6: If she says no to the date, leave her alone
6B: if you go on the date, be nice to her and have fun then confess
7: If she has the same feelings, you're in, if not leave her alone. You don't wanna be the boy known as just one of her stalkers.Need Some Girl Help/Advice..?
ask her to casually hang out with you sometime
start talking to her in person more ofthen but not to the point ur annoying and flirt a l lil bit more so she doaent think of you just as a friend
CONFESS
I need guy help/advice...?
So my best guy friend told me he had a crush on me in june, and i told him i sorta liked him back, and nothing really happened after that.
we had a fight so we stopped talking for awhile, but we've recently started talking again and are still once again friends( but not as close as we were )
so now the thing is, i now have a crush on him!
is it too late for anything to happen? do you think he's over me by now?
i need your help/advice?
thanks %26lt;3I need guy help/advice...?
why don't you just tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same about you and if he doesn't then just find someone else that interests you.I need guy help/advice...?
go 4 it a tell him u like him,be confident he will like uhighlight
we had a fight so we stopped talking for awhile, but we've recently started talking again and are still once again friends( but not as close as we were )
so now the thing is, i now have a crush on him!
is it too late for anything to happen? do you think he's over me by now?
i need your help/advice?
thanks %26lt;3I need guy help/advice...?
why don't you just tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same about you and if he doesn't then just find someone else that interests you.I need guy help/advice...?
go 4 it a tell him u like him,be confident he will like u
Guy needs some help/advice?
well I posted a question not to long ago asking how I could get the girl I like to talk to me instead of ignoring me and talking to her friends (other girls)
well anyway I like this girl in high school I'm 15 and most of my friends have had/have girlfriends I'm ashamed to say that Ive never had a girlfriend. I like this girl who I am friends with, I usually go to the area where they all are at lunch. I get like 5 hellos and they just carry on with their conversations,well I then wait till there is a pause and I jump in asking her how she is doing and trying to ask questions with answers that aren't just yes/no to initiate a conversation but she always seems to just answer them as fast as she can and goes back to '; who's dating who'; or whatever. I dint think she is interested. But I want to know how I can get her to answer back so we can have a real conversation. I want to get to know her and see if I want to ask her out
also I'm 99% sure she doesn't have a boyfriend she is just always with these 4 friends
help is appreciated
K thanks Guy needs some help/advice?
Find a time when she isn't with those friends. Then talk to her.
well anyway I like this girl in high school I'm 15 and most of my friends have had/have girlfriends I'm ashamed to say that Ive never had a girlfriend. I like this girl who I am friends with, I usually go to the area where they all are at lunch. I get like 5 hellos and they just carry on with their conversations,well I then wait till there is a pause and I jump in asking her how she is doing and trying to ask questions with answers that aren't just yes/no to initiate a conversation but she always seems to just answer them as fast as she can and goes back to '; who's dating who'; or whatever. I dint think she is interested. But I want to know how I can get her to answer back so we can have a real conversation. I want to get to know her and see if I want to ask her out
also I'm 99% sure she doesn't have a boyfriend she is just always with these 4 friends
help is appreciated
K thanks Guy needs some help/advice?
Find a time when she isn't with those friends. Then talk to her.
Senior Noncommissioned Officers, help/advice please?
I am a new nco, e-5.
Here's the problem, I just arrived to my duty station not too long ago, and my first weekend I decided to step out of my comfort zone and go out with some other soldiers (E-4/E-5s).
So, this male SGT was macking on me, but I was like ';uh no';
The next day people come up to me, ';SGT Clark walked in on you having sex?'; what?
So basically, he had spread rumors I was sleeping around... on my first weekend.
So, I told him and my first line leader together I'm not sleeping around and he needed to quit it.
Fine, nothing happened after that for a minute.
About two weeks later, the rumor is I am sleeping with a specialist who had been familiarizing me with Okinawa, telling me how to get to Kadena AFB, Camp Lester/Foster, etc.
I again told him to quit.
So this week the rumor is I am sleeping with yet another person.
This time his name was mentioned, ';I heard from Clark this.'; I can't prove he had spread the rumors, only go off people's word.
So, my commander asked me yesterday, ';Would you like to press harassment charges? Take some time and think about it';
As a senior NCO, what do you think I should do.
I want him to quit, and yes I would LOVE to make an example out of him, but sexual harassment follows you your entire career and I don't want to be that harsh, but thats what they are going to give him if I say yes.Senior Noncommissioned Officers, help/advice please?
You have already talked to him and nothing happend i would definitely file the sexual harassment on him. One it will show him that your completely serious about this and that he needs to stop and two yes it will follow him but he made the choice not to take no for an answer. If you dont file this report he could end up doing it to someone else. Stop it now before it gets worse.Senior Noncommissioned Officers, help/advice please?
If there is any other way to stop it try that. If you can get a senior grade nco or a low grade office (lt or ensign depending on branch of service) to deal with it unofficially then do that as well. make sure he knows that if he doesn't stop that his career is ruined. then drop the axe.
Make him an example that Sexual Harrassment will not be tolerated in our military. PERIOD!
Folks has got to know that ';NO'; means ';NO';, and shouldn't get mad and vengeful just because you said ';no';.
And you just got to that unit, and they're clowning like that??? What a way to welcome someone into a unit!
Talk to your First Sergeant? It's too late IMO. You have already spoke to the person, take it up the chain or press charges.
Hope it works out.
To everyone that is involved '; Grow the f ck up';. Sgt Clark needs to get his head out of his a$$.
I feel that this is one of the tests of being in the military. Hold an informal meeting with your 1st line leader, Sgt Clark and the person that mentioned Sgt Clark. Tell your 1SG that intend to have this meeting. He will very likely show up. Question your source about it and question Sgt Clark. This should stop your source from repeating bullshit that he hears from other ';canaries';. All the people that repeat the BS that is told are just a guilt as the person that started the rumors.
If this doesn't work then you will have no choice but to file a formal harassment charges. Keep a written record of everything that you hear. If you can carry a small digital recorder with you to record conversations of people so that they cannot deny what the have told you. If you do file then you will need all the help that you can get.
When you are angry you are very likely to be out of your element. Always keep your cool. When you get angry you are likely to do something stupid. Sgt Clark sounds like he is the type of person that uses this to his advantage. Piss people off past their breaking point and make them self look like they are innocent.
The angrier that you get the more he wins. Stay cool and you will win.
When I was an E-5 (USMC 0311) it would have been taken care of probably through violence of some sort. I know that doesn't always work but that is the best part about working with all guys. We probably would have gotten a beer a couple days later too.
You have to put an end to it somehow because soon you won't have any credibility and be useless as an NCO. Make a decision and go with it. If you stand by what you decide - you will be respected and that goes and LONG way as an NCO
Here's the problem, I just arrived to my duty station not too long ago, and my first weekend I decided to step out of my comfort zone and go out with some other soldiers (E-4/E-5s).
So, this male SGT was macking on me, but I was like ';uh no';
The next day people come up to me, ';SGT Clark walked in on you having sex?'; what?
So basically, he had spread rumors I was sleeping around... on my first weekend.
So, I told him and my first line leader together I'm not sleeping around and he needed to quit it.
Fine, nothing happened after that for a minute.
About two weeks later, the rumor is I am sleeping with a specialist who had been familiarizing me with Okinawa, telling me how to get to Kadena AFB, Camp Lester/Foster, etc.
I again told him to quit.
So this week the rumor is I am sleeping with yet another person.
This time his name was mentioned, ';I heard from Clark this.'; I can't prove he had spread the rumors, only go off people's word.
So, my commander asked me yesterday, ';Would you like to press harassment charges? Take some time and think about it';
As a senior NCO, what do you think I should do.
I want him to quit, and yes I would LOVE to make an example out of him, but sexual harassment follows you your entire career and I don't want to be that harsh, but thats what they are going to give him if I say yes.Senior Noncommissioned Officers, help/advice please?
You have already talked to him and nothing happend i would definitely file the sexual harassment on him. One it will show him that your completely serious about this and that he needs to stop and two yes it will follow him but he made the choice not to take no for an answer. If you dont file this report he could end up doing it to someone else. Stop it now before it gets worse.Senior Noncommissioned Officers, help/advice please?
If there is any other way to stop it try that. If you can get a senior grade nco or a low grade office (lt or ensign depending on branch of service) to deal with it unofficially then do that as well. make sure he knows that if he doesn't stop that his career is ruined. then drop the axe.
Make him an example that Sexual Harrassment will not be tolerated in our military. PERIOD!
Folks has got to know that ';NO'; means ';NO';, and shouldn't get mad and vengeful just because you said ';no';.
And you just got to that unit, and they're clowning like that??? What a way to welcome someone into a unit!
Talk to your First Sergeant? It's too late IMO. You have already spoke to the person, take it up the chain or press charges.
Hope it works out.
To everyone that is involved '; Grow the f ck up';. Sgt Clark needs to get his head out of his a$$.
I feel that this is one of the tests of being in the military. Hold an informal meeting with your 1st line leader, Sgt Clark and the person that mentioned Sgt Clark. Tell your 1SG that intend to have this meeting. He will very likely show up. Question your source about it and question Sgt Clark. This should stop your source from repeating bullshit that he hears from other ';canaries';. All the people that repeat the BS that is told are just a guilt as the person that started the rumors.
If this doesn't work then you will have no choice but to file a formal harassment charges. Keep a written record of everything that you hear. If you can carry a small digital recorder with you to record conversations of people so that they cannot deny what the have told you. If you do file then you will need all the help that you can get.
When you are angry you are very likely to be out of your element. Always keep your cool. When you get angry you are likely to do something stupid. Sgt Clark sounds like he is the type of person that uses this to his advantage. Piss people off past their breaking point and make them self look like they are innocent.
The angrier that you get the more he wins. Stay cool and you will win.
When I was an E-5 (USMC 0311) it would have been taken care of probably through violence of some sort. I know that doesn't always work but that is the best part about working with all guys. We probably would have gotten a beer a couple days later too.
You have to put an end to it somehow because soon you won't have any credibility and be useless as an NCO. Make a decision and go with it. If you stand by what you decide - you will be respected and that goes and LONG way as an NCO
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