Help? advice? question about sex and love?

I love this girl more than life itself we have been togeather for 3 years i would like to marry her. We hit a rough patch and we entered an open relationship, during this time i didnt see anyone it was only about a month long, I asked her if she wanted to go back to being exclusive and she said yes. However she was withsomeone else during our open phase, which hurts me to no end, but i can get over it. It didnt answer any of her questions and she still doenst know what she wants out of life, she doesnt see us ended but she also isn't ready to commit to me for good. She doesnt know what she wants and i totally do, what do i do here? Continue to take things one day at a time and see what happenes? Or should i move on a find someone who is ready to settle down like i am? we are in our mid 20's.Help? advice? question about sex and love?
Wow, most of the time it the girl who is ready and guy isnt. Maybe she really isnt ready to settle down but she still wants you in her life. Being in your 20's is still pretty young to be settling down, dont you think? You and her agreed to an open relationship, she took you up on the offer and now you're hurting. This pain could eat you alive if you dont learn to get over it. She didnt cheat on you, technically, but in your heart you feel betrayed. That is normal. But do you feel that one day you can put this behind you or do you think that it will keep lurking in the back of your mind and possibly cause trust issues? Maybe you should still date this girl but give her some space so she can figure out what she wants out of life. I am 27 and still dont know what I want out of life besides being happy.Help? advice? question about sex and love?
You shouldn't force her to settle down if she isn't ready yet. Sometimes people need to see what else is out there to appreciate the things they had before, or what they really like/love in a person. You should give her some time, let her know your feelings and then allow her to decide. If you really love her, you will let her make her own decision
one thing that i have learned is to never give up.


and to never regret. if you love her then try as hard as you can. we always have a limit of how much we can take and give. soon you will find your limit and maybe it will be with her or without her but let her know how you feel . show her as well.


remember dont suffocate her Just love her.


best of luck to you................
If you are in love with her than you should wait, maybe she was hurt badly in a other realtionship so its gonna takes sometime, but if you love this girl like you say you do than you should have no problem waiting, My parents were together for 8-9 years before they got married it takes time
Don't occupy yourself with this issue. Keep her in the back of your head like she's doing to you. Shop around and see if you like anybody else.
do wutever u want
you still have some good years left...lol...give it time and don't stop looking or keeping your dreams alive for anyone,
maybe hang with her,....but keep your options open...you never know what's gonna happen!
i think she honestly doesn't know what she wants. However, she is hurting you in the process. You have to weigh the risk vs benefit here.


On one hand, if she is willing to be monogamous with you, but, not ready to marry....you may have to deal with that for a while. Sometimes marriage actually hurts a relationship and puts and undue amount of ';ball and chain'; on a couple. If you each can enjoy the perks of being married, without the title, then, surely you can be fine with that for a while. (example: till ur 30).


but, if she is going to be so confused and wishy-woshy of having a 'relationship' at all with you..you may have to set her free and move on. You shouldn't have to live your life wondering if she is going to get bored and want someone else for a while.


You two should sit down and discuss your goals and see what kind of compromise you 2 can come up with that will make you both feel like you have accomplished something healthy, worthwhile, and comfortable for each of you.
WOW!!! You sound like you really do love her. Well, here's my view. You know what you want right? well, I've always believed that you should always go after what you want no matter what it may be. She may not know what she wants now but in time she may. BUT....... There might be a backfire to this. You could decide to stick with it and stay with her hoping that she will find out that she wants to be with you forever, or she could realize that she wants to try something new. Honestly, I think that the whole open relationship thing that yall went through showed her something about you and showed you a little something about her. she still doesn't know what she wants and it showed her that you want to be with only her!!!!! I hope that everything goes OK for you!!! Just remember that everything happens for a reason. I am a strong believer of that. It will all turn out OK!!!! God Bless!!!