More than bedmates; I need some great advice and help. I'm scared.

Well I have been kind of ';friends with benefits'; with this guy for 3 months. He moved and was gone for 5 weeks and he just came back and I really don't know if I wanna be just friends with benefits anymore and I would really like to be his girlfriend. The only problem is that I have absolutely no clue if he feels the same way and I don't want to say anything and lose the relationship that we have right now. I know he hangs out with other girls and stuff and maybe he is seeing them too because we made it clear at first that all that didn't matter and I stood on it too because it was fun at first. I really don't know what to say or do without compromising the relationship. He may come back over to see me tonight and he has already been over once today so should I tell him or wait a little while longer for him to get settled in here because he hasnt even been back here a week yet. If you need any other details just ask and check back and I will have this updated. I just need help you know?More than bedmates; I need some great advice and help. I'm scared.
idk you should hint to him that you want to be his girlfriend and depending on how he acts then you could tell him how you feel...but if he gets scared and starts dodging you then you know that it isnt going to work...More than bedmates; I need some great advice and help. I'm scared.
First, you understand that you are, in effect, sleeping with every person he's ever had sex with, right? Second, answer the question, ';What are YOU getting from this connection?'; You indicate you have someone in your life. But he apparently leaves when he got what he came to your place for. That doesn't seem to satisfy most folks. Are you able to say, all of me or none?
Tough ';bird in the hand vs. two in the bush'; question. As your self which action you will regret later if it ';goes wrong';. Well you regret not going for the brass ring and living with the status quo, which will eventually deteriorate, or going for the ';gold'; and loosing. Me, I would go for broke. It is your best shot for long term happiness, even if you loose... this time.
just try and figure out of he has anyone else and how much he likes u before saying anything, also u may have to fight for him so be wary of this
i think u should ask him out tonight when he goes over there and ya and dont be afraid of it cuz ur friends with benifits that means something
i have similarer problem but just to be safe i would wait
u look like my sister lol
This is why 'friends with benefits' is the most ridiculous 'relationship' two people could possibly EVER have. Someone always ends up getting hurt!


Now that he knows he can get the good stuff from you without having to date you to get it, why would you think he'd suddenly turn round and want to be your boyfriend? If you wanted him to be boyfriend material, you shouldn't have given him all the 'benefits' so quickly without being in a relationship with him. I suggest finding someone that actually has some respect for you and never doing this again :/ Live and learn!