I need help!....advice plz?

I am now 10 weeks pregnant. I am 18 and my bf 19, he does not want to keep this baby, he wants us to not struggle in life and finish college and have good jobs before we have kids....I on the other hand think that we can do this with the support of my family and do not want to kill our baby bcuz it will be the easy way out. My bf is the sweetest most giving person on this planet, he was raised by his dad (and his father is his everything) and today he tells me his father may dis-own him if we go through with this. I feel really guilty that I am considering having this baby. I don't want to give the baby up for adoption that's not an option...and my bf will be by my side NO MATTER what. But I feel terrible that I am putting this on him (he has SO many other issues going on right now). We were not being irresponsible and I was on b.c when I concieved. How do I keep this baby and not regret that fact that I am ruin our lives and happiness? If I get an abortion I am ONLY doing to make him happy. If I keep it, I feel selfish and guilty because this boy has given me nothing but the best and I want to make him happy in return....what should I do?? =(I need help!....advice plz?
You are not being selfish, you are simply doing the right thing. Once the baby comes he'll feel differently. It's normal to stress about the things he is stressing about when you're young and expecting. If he's father disowns him because you decide to keep the baby then he isn't worth the air he breaths. But he's probably just saying that and will love his son and grandchild in the end. Just relax and do what you feel is right. Keep that baby. With time your bf will be okay. Alot of young men panic at this stage. Don't try to please everyone else. Good Luck and Congrats.I need help!....advice plz?
Having a baby is a life changing experience. Meaning, life will NEVER be the same for you. Now this doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing, but it is hard. You have to have a good support system. You cannot count on him to stick around! I don't care what he says now, you better be prepared to do this alone just in case. I'm not trying to be negative, just realistic.
Only the 2 of you can make this decision. But I am confused. How can you consider abortion, but be so against adoption. What kind of crap is that? You would much rather kill your baby then see her/him grow up in a loving home.
how do you know that this will ruin your life.....having a baby makes a lot of changes, mostly for the good....if you are close to your bf's dad, why dont YOU call him and have a chat and explain the situation you feel you are in....most parents just need time to come around but if you approach him you might be able to make him see a different side....you have a hard choice to make but if adoption is out of the question i personally would be keeping the child....you dont have a crystal ball with you and you could spend the rest of your life regretting aborting this pregnancy....take the plunge and enjoy your pregnancy and new baby
You have to do what's right for you, after all it is your body. I doubt his dad will really disown him, I think he might be trying to sway your decision with guilt. But if you want this baby, then have it. The choice is ultimately up to you to have this baby and up to him if he wants to stick around and help raise it. But do what feels right for you, not what is right for everyone else. Because you are the one that is going to have to live with the decision for the rest of your life. Think long and hard if you can live your life knowing you had an abortion? If not then it's not the right decision for you.
It's really your choice, Dear.


If you want to keep the baby, do it. Your BF may be disowned by his one and only parental figure, but he'll grow to accept it eventually. All parents do if they love their children.


And if worse comes to worse, then talk with your parents to see if your BF can move in with you.





It'll all be alright eventually. You just need to work past the hard times to get to the good times at the end. Trust me, it'll be worth it.
Well if anyone tells you something you dont like call them a jerk caz they are not the ones who are having the baby and its not their decision on what you and ur bf do. It was you guys who made the human so it is up to you two to decide what is best.Well thats it, now really think about every option you have and pick the best one for you and your family.
You shouldn't feel guilty at all for wanting to keep your baby. Even though you say he's the sweetest guy, he wouldn't try to force you into this if he really was. Perhaps you and your baby are better off without him.
If his dad really cared he wouldn't disown him. He would feel proud that he's going to be a grandfather. Your not being selfish your just being an adult. Don't do stuff just to make your boyfriend happy because in the end you'll just feel horrible for having an abortion. If you have to support and help of your family then you'll could still finish college and go on with your careers.
sounds like ur boyfriend is more inportant then ur childs life! Once that baby is born he will love it with all his heart and soul! Keep your baby it will bring yous so much joy love and happyness.
I think the two of you should sit down and go threw ALL of yuor options and decide on one thats best for you.Also do what you think would be the best for the baby and whats best for you and your boyfriend.





best wishes Brianna,
dont have an abortion to make him happy. there is always adoption. the father will most likely come round in the end anyway youd be surprised. i have to say though don thave an abortion because you 2 arent ready for it youve done something accept the responsibility.(sorry thats mean)


and congrats.
I don't think anyone can tell you what to do. I'm sure you know what to do in your heart. To give you advice though, I wouldn't do anything you are going to regret. It sounds to me like you answered your own question...it really sounds like you want to keep your baby. An abortion would just be the easy way out and I'm sure once you tell your boyfriend you want to keep the baby he will be supportive if he really is great to you. Don't feel guilty for bringing a child into the world. But ultimately, it's YOUR decision.