Help/advice on and about a Parenting plan?

I am the father a nine year old little girl; whom has been separated from mom since she was two. For the last 7 years mom and I have been communicable in our efforts as parents and have kept the state out of the picture and have no parenting plan in place with the child support being the same.





Till 2009 I had Piper (daughter) every weekend starting on Friday night ending on Monday morning during school and every other week during the summer; this worked out since my ex worked in the restaurant industry and on most weekends (I do the m-f thing). In 09 she got a new job working m-f so we went every other weekend, but I was able to take part in seeing her anytime usually within the week so I would see her maybe once or twice after work within the week. 鈥揙K I know your busy so will cut the overview short!





She has recently gotten a new boyfriend who does not care for me and in conclusion my ability to see her those little moments within the week have been taken away; I have also twice now run into a situation where she has taken my every other weekend for personally planned outing (things like going to the zoo and such). I am easy going and let these things pass over and they never come to head but I need to put my foot down and retain some structure and have been told by many that it is important to have a parenting plan in place even when you get along.





I feel there is building tension and I am not sure she will take it kindly me asking to have one in place and I am scared (and a little cheap) to get into a full blown battle over having one set up. I am looking for every other weekend with one or two days a week included, and the ability to be involved in certain school events. I am pretty sure she would not fight on the every other weekend but she might with the one weekday, and I certainly don鈥檛 want to lose anything less that I have --just don鈥檛 like going 12 days twice a month without seeing my kid; and the two times she took my weekend away I did not see her for 24 days.





What to do? What to do?





Appreciate the time!!!!Help/advice on and about a Parenting plan?
if it stays the same or gets worse involve the state...sorry! She will do what her boyfriend says, not you.Help/advice on and about a Parenting plan?
She wants her boyfriend to play more of a ';dad'; role and not you.





You have two choices...tell her that you'd like to get together with her to work out a parenting plan that both of you can sign out of court. I recently did this - I paid $1500 for an attorney to draw up the paperwork that we've agreed on, we both reviewed and signed in my own home, then my attorney went in front of the judge and he signed it. We never had to go to the courthouse once. Granted you two and still in good terms, your ex might be up for this.





Or you can file a parenting plan and take her straight to court. Obtaining every other weekend and two evening weeknight visits isn't abnormal.





Your situation isn't going to get any better and it's in your best interest to make your visitation legally enforceable.
I am divorced with a parenting plan and find it really helpful. There are generic versions that can be written up by an attorney so it need not be pricey but this is you child and well worth any investment. I think the best advice I got for forming a parenting plan is that it is not about what you or your partner wants but what is in the best interest of your child. I kept reminding myself of that when I made the tough decisions. Good luck!
Get mediation , and both of you come up with a parenting plan. together. make mediation just you , your ex, and the mediator.hopefully you can come to an agreement . if you cannot come to an agreement , or she won't uphold the agreement then obtain an attorney and take to court route. my husbands ex although they were never married she pulls this sort of stuff ALL the TIME , its tired , old , and shes trifiling . and its exasperating , you must keep documentation of EVERYTHING ... phone calls, phone records ,letters sent and recieved .money you have spent on your daughter any conversations ,denied visitation ..tape record (check your states laws)you have to keep track of everything ...
I think it is time for you and the mother of your child to have an agreement set out and signed by a notary of public this makes it LEGAL without the state... Plus the state is more found of these plans and will make it go easier for you if ever denied these rights by your daughters mother