Need advice about getting help from grumpy husband?

HELP! My parents borrow my husband weekly to help them stuff I can't help them w/ (such as lifting heavy items) b/c my dad is too weak from terminal cancer to do it. This is the only time he goes to their house (5min from our house) and he acts like it's a MAJOR imposition. It REALLY upsets my dad and there's nobody else who can do it. Solutions?Need advice about getting help from grumpy husband?
Give him a little extra treat when he gets home. I find that men often respond just like Pavlov's Dog. He does what you want and you give him a little something - something that he wants (if you get what I mean). And when you gets things going with him say - You know what I really appreciate you helping my parents.





If you do not want to go THAT route then you could give him a day of golf or a gift certificate to do something that he likes to do and tell him it is to say thank you for helping them out.





He is probably tired at the end of the week from work and taking care of his own family and really just does not want to do stuff for other people. It is normal. You have to just make him see the benefits of it and let him know it is really appreciated.Need advice about getting help from grumpy husband?
Your hubby doesn't understand his important role in helping the family survive this cancer journey. Help him to realise that he is holding the family together - like the glue by doing this tasks. I can understand more than you will ever know how he may feel used or inconvenienced by this situation. A change in perspective may make all the difference. Plus, in the long term, someone will have to be paid to do the jobs like that anyway once your father passes on. Your father is also upset probably cause he wishes he could do it all himself as he used to. Ask hubby to ponder over that for while. Its only short term for now.
tell your husband how important he is to everyone and make sure everyone makes him feel appreciated
Use a ';hire-a-handyman'; service. Lots of older guys out there don't want to ';retire'; completely, so they do handyman services for people as ';something to do';. Usually they don't charge much. It could be a way of helping Dad, and not annoying your husband.