HELP! Advice needed. What should i do?

ok so I don't want to annoy you by telling you my whole life story but some of it is necessary. So as few weeks after being in rehab I found out i was pregnant the clinic let me complete my session while being pregnant. Two days after my daughter was born her father signed over his rights (it was best for all of us) so 7 months has gone by im living on my own and supporting my daughter on my own. Today I got a call from her fathers mother ( i know confusing) She wants to be able to see the baby. I know they are her grandparents but I don't think they should see her. Her father signed his rights away and wants nothing to do with her. How am I going to explain to her these are her grandparents, when her father is not in the picture. I don't know what to do HELP! pleaseHELP! Advice needed. What should i do?
It's totally YOUR call. The father signed over his rights, therefore his mother has NO rights.





If you choose to let your ex's mother have a part in your daughter's life, it will be on your terms, not hers. She comes to you, you do not go to her.





When your daughter is older, she will appreciate you not turning her grandparents away. Just keep things civil and about your daughter only. Don't ask about your ex and make it clear that any talk of him is prohibited.





This can work, just be smart about it.HELP! Advice needed. What should i do?
Let them see her, the more family to love and support your bub the better :D The father can stay out of the picture. Either way you look at it when she's old enough she'll ask about her daddy but at least the rejection will be lesser knowing her grandparents still want to love her and be around her. Good luck :)
Honestly I think you should let them see her. The more people that are in your child's life that love her the better. Don't punish them for what their son has done. Not to mention that your daughter is going to have those questions anyway and her grandparents might be invaluable in helping her cope.
Your daughter won't ask that question for a long, long time. It would be cruel not to allow the grandparents to see the baby. If they prove to be a constant in your child's life, you can just tell her that God gave her an extra pair of grandparents.





TX Mom
Although he signed over his rights. That has nothing to do with the grandparents. You dont want your baby running into them later on in life and then being mad at you for not letting them be part of there life.
It depends on what they are like.
first , let me congratulate you on doing it on your own and taking care of your daughter! :)





this is a tough one , see even though he signed over the rights , doesn't mean his parents are no longer the grandparents they will always be . having said that , you have the right to say yes or no . Now .. if you think the grandparents could be a good influence in your baby girl's life then you might want to consider a meeting and see how things go .


You don't want your daughter to ask you later where are my grandparents , cause she will a some point of her life ..


use what you mother's Instinct tells you .





when your daughter ask you just tell her this are your biological grandparents from your biological father. I am sure by then you would have a nice man in your life who would take the dad's role ..


good luck
well the father signed over the rights...but his mother might be heartbroken that she can not see her grandchild. She might be pissed that her own son was such a jerk.





As others have said...it is good to have a large amount of people in your babies live that will love and support her. The grandmother did nothing wrong and could be a wonderful person in your life. I would give her a chance before totally pushing off. Your baby is still way too small to understand the whole family issues. But I do agree...maybe the topic of Daddy would be best left not talked about when grandma is around.


It may help for your baby to know that even tho Daddy was a jerk and did not want her, that was not the feelings of the rest of his family. It may help relieve the sting of his abandonment.
I would let them know that her fathr made the choice not to be in her life and that her coming around them would eventually bring the father into the picture someday and for him to even see her would be wrong because he gave her up! I wouldn't do it right now in her life let her decide later on ir life what she wants to do! That is hard huh? Why didn't they sry to stop him from signing her off! I mean what kind of parents does he have? I wouldn't you been doing it thus far ....Say no disrespect but i rather you's didn't see her she has no ties with her father and it wouldn't be right at this time. thats it!